Ok, so I’m on the Susie Magazine forums thing (if you don’t know what it is, it’s a Christian girl’s forum site) and a TON of the subjects on the forums are about weddings. What kind of wedding dress do you want, what stone do you want in your ring, what’s the colour theme for your wedding going to be, etc. I’m pretty sure there was even one on what the appetizers were going to be at your reception.
It got me wondering, why are girls so consumed with this idea of the perfect wedding?
Now don’t get me wrong, I do my fair share of planning my own wedding. I basically have my wedding dress designed already. But I still sometimes have a hard time understanding why girls are so caught up in the idea of a wedding.
If you ask any teenage guy what their dream wedding would be like, their opinion would most likely revolve around the dessert table at the reception. If they have an opinion, that is. Most likely they’ll just look at you funny and mutter something about the hippos that need rescuing in their video-game.
If you ask any teenage girl, however, they’ll start listing off the bride’s maid’s dresses, the pew bows, the colour themes, the exact length and style of the dress, exactly how the flower girl will look, what her bouquet will be of, and probably even the exact amount of glitter that will be in her hair. They’ve likely even got the groom picked out. All that’s left is finding the groom to match their description…
Personally, I think that we are so addicted to the thought of a wedding because we’ve been raised that way. Not by our parents, teaching us everything there is to know about weddings and how to plan a great one, like in Penelope, but by the movies we watched, and the songs that we heard, and the wedding barbies, and the books our moms used to read us. Girls are raised for weddings, in my opinion.
We’ve all had that big white poofy dress for our barbies or dollies, or whatever you used to play with. I’m pretty sure I had one for every single toy I ever owned. I even had a wedding smurf, for crying out loud. Almost every single one of the games I used to play with my friends ended with the girl barbie putting on the big white dress and getting married to the boy barbie.
Think about every single Disney movie you’ve ever seen. All of them end up with the beautiful girl and the drop-dead gorgeous prince getting married. It’s like you can sit back and relax, knowing that now it’s going to be all right.
I also think it’s because as soon as we enter the preteen years we start getting the dating talks about waiting for the right man and about how on our wedding we want to be able to say we saved it all. The wedding is shown to be the climax of people’s lives.
Why do you think girls are so addicted to the idea of a wedding? Why do we pour over pictures of wedding dresses and idolize the idea of our “perfect day?”
Next post is going to be related to the wedding theme, so check back soon!