I’ve been thinking a lot lately on relationships, flirting, purity, etc, in case you couldn’t tell. ;) But today I was going to write about flirting. Was going to write about flirting, until I read Kelly’s post on Echoes in the Wind. I only have a few more things to add on.
(If you haven’t read Kelly’s post yet, go read it now. Then read my post, because mine is a follow-up of that post.)
I hate it when people say that girls flirt because they don’t have a good male role model in their life, or because they don’t have a good dad. I have an amazing dad, but I used to flirt a bunch. When I was about 13-just before I turned 15 I was a flirt. I blamed it on my happy, bubbly, outgoing personality, but really I knew better. When I flirted, people liked me. I liked being liked.
But then I started watching the way that the guys who I thought were good Christian guys acted, and how they treated me. I think I started doing this in about November of last year. And I realized what made them so different: They didn’t flirt. I felt loved and accepted simply because I was Becca, and I didn’t have to pretend to be anyone else. It sounds cheesy, I know, but really–it’s how I felt, and still feel around them. So I decided I would stop flirting. And that was basically when I stopped flirting altogether.
I am a really bubbly, happy person, like I mentioned before, and often that personality can come off as a huge flirt. So I ask myself now, “Am I acting beautiful, or am I acting sexy/hot?” If it’s the second one, I calm down a bit.
And that’s my challenge to you–if you ever feel like you might be flirting ask yourself “Am I acting beautiful, or am I acting hot?” And if the answer is hot, then discipline yourself a bit. Honestly, it’s not worth it. Life is so much better when you don’t have to worry about stupid things like what people think of you. :)