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So I read quite a few other teen girl bloggers. (If you guys know of any good ones (guys or girls) please let me know!)

Anyway, a very common trend I see going around is writing letters to your future husband.Some girls post them on their blogs (or, at least parts of them) and to be honest, they’re really sweet.Basically they write them and save them until they get married, upon which they will present these letters to their husbands saying “Look, I was thinking about you all along.” It’s an adorable idea. :)

But I see so much of this infatuation girls have with weddings everywhere. Don’t get me wrong, I want to get married as much as any girl. It’s going to be really fun finding that guy and getting to know him better than starting a life with him.

But I really think that Christian girls can become way too obsessed.

In the the church, every single girl is told that God has a guy out there for her. I personally do not think that belief is Biblical. (now hear me out…) In 1st Corinthians 7 Paul points out multiple times that women can be called to be single! He actually says that if a woman remains single she is able to be 100% devoted to God instead of being torn between God and her husband. As Christian teen girls, we’re told to be excited to get married, which I completely agree with. I think marriage is wonderful, and I really hope to get married some day (honestly, which girl doesn’t?) But the problem happens when we aren’t prepared if God calls us to be single.

If he called me to be single I don’t know how I’d respond, to be honest.

I disagree strongly how much girls are taught in the church to think about marriage and weddings and all of that. Purity is important. Modesty is important. Both are not stressed enough, I believe. But when they are stressed we are told that it is because we want to save ourselves for our husbands. Although I agree with this statement, there is so much more to it than that. But we, as Christian girls, are taught to put everything in terms of marriage and our husbands.

We don’t flirt because we don’t want to give any of ourselves away to another guy other than our husband

We don’t wear immodest clothing because we’re saving ourselves for our husband

We stay pure so we can give everything to our husband

I have heard so many modesty/purity talks that I really can’t count them. And I have never heard one that didn’t focus on our future husbands.

The reason I try not to wear immodest clothes is that it distracts brothers in Christ and is a selfish thing to do. The reason I’m gonna stay pure is that God says so, and really I don’t think we need any other reason than that. (Of course, saving yourself for your husband is extremely important, but what I’m trying to say is that we shouldn’t only follow God because there’s something in it for us at the end)

The real reason this all bothers me is that our focus is not on God anymore–it’s about what God can give us.

We need to start following God simply because he is God. Not for any other reason.

I firmly believe that God has a guy out there for a lot of girls. I hope he has one for me. And guys, I’m sure he has a great girl out there for you, too.

But the point is this: if he didn’t, would you still give your life to him? Or do we focus more on what God can give us rather than God himself?

Guys, I’m sorry this was really a post directed towards the girl readers… :P But what do you follow God for? Is it because he has something to offer? Or because he is God?



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Don’t you hate it when you suddenly realize something about yourself that you were trying to avoid?

When you realize that, all of a sudden, you aren’t so perfect as you thought in that one area in life?

I got a bit of a wake-up call this weekend while hanging out with some amazing friends of mine, and getting to know two other awesome girls. I’ve been working on something for a really long time (which I’m not going to post on here) and I just realized this weekend how far I am from conquering it.

We all have something in our lives that we wish could just go away. Vanity, selfishness, lack of confidence, flirting, lust, gossiping, and tons more.

But no matter how hard we try, and no matter how long we succeed for, it always seems to come back, doesn’t it?

I was positive I had conquered this area in my life. But after hanging out with a bunch of different people I realized I hadn’t. I was ashamed of how I was acting around them at different points of time, because it’s not the way a daughter of God should be.

For a long time I’ve been justifying it by saying, “It’s not a sin. You didn’t do anything wrong, Becca, so snap out of it.”

But then I remember my verse… Revelation 3:16, which I quote all the time. “So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth.”

I really hate how the Christian life can’t be lukewarm. Wouldn’t that be a lot easier?

But it’s not. And you know why? Because when we live on fire for God, giving up those habits is worth it. But if we only give up half of ourselves, we’re never going to understand all that he has planned for us.

We are not perfect. You will never be perfect. So STOP TRYING. But we can be righteous. Righteousness is for the followers of God not only in heaven, but while we’re here on earth, too. Being righteous doesn’t mean that you never sin–we all sin. But it does mean that we have a heart yearning for God, and living for him every second of our lives.

God will help you conquer whatever you struggle with. You may go back into old ways once in a while, but with His help you will conquer it completely. And no matter how much I wish God could hurry up and help me, I know that His timing is better than mine, and that I really do need to learn patience anyway…


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Today was Pentecost Sunday.

My pastor was giving his message today and something that he said struck me. He said,

“As Christians, we are told to strive for righteousness and holiness. What are you striving for? Are you striving for righteousness, or for money? For holiness, or for fame?”

And I realized that I’m not striving for righteousness. I automatically had a list pop into my head of things that I strive for.

Friends. Beauty. Love. Acceptance. Good grades. Happiness.

And none of them was righteousness. Now, none of them are bad things. In fact, most of what I strive toward are gifts from God–friends, love, and beauty are all good things to be appreciated. BUT not to be prideful of, and they are not to take a higher place than God.

I have decided to try and strive for righteousness. We’re only on this world for about 90 years, probably less, and we don’t even remember the first 4-7 years of it. I know people who were my best friends last year that I never talk to anymore not because I don’t love them, but because you grow apart from people.

But God will always be there. And personally I don’t want to have to explain to God why I put people above him.

So I challenge you: strive for righteousness with the same effort you put into other things.

It’s not easy, but hey–sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same.


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