Unlike most, this post is targeted towards parents of teenagers. But if you’re a teenager, still please read and post your ideas and thoughts below. :)
Our culture revolves around the idea that biggest is best. You, as parents, are told that unless you are the coolest dad/mom, give us the best clothes, throw us the best parties with all the best people, and unless you give us the best gifts and the best house ever, you won’t ever be able to have a good relationship with your teen daughter/son. (I’m going to focus on the daughter bit, since I understand that better. You know, being a girl and all.)
I have the friends who get the best of everything materialistic. The ones who buy Abercrombie clothes without so much as glancing at the price tag. The ones who seem to have all the best parties because their parents let them do whatever they want. The ones who have the best stuff in general. And you know what? They don’t love their parents as much as they should.
Parents, we don’t need the biggest. Sometimes the biggest isn’t the best. If you focus on giving your kids the biggest all the time without teaching them how to care for others, you’re going to turn them into rich, spoiled brats. (Sorry, but that’s just how it is. It says it in the Bible.) And take it from a teenager–no one likes to hang around someone like that.
Sometimes the best ways to form a good relationship with your teenage daughter are the simpler ways. A long walk around the neighbourhood. Picking her up from a friend’s house and using that opportunity to talk to her about something that you saw on her facebook page that worried you. Let her know you care—let her know you want to be in her life. Every girl wants to have a Mom or Daddy that they know wants to be an active part in their life, even if they say they don’t. Even if it seems that she doesn’t, your teenage daughter loves you and wants to make you proud.
And you don’t need to buy her that cherry red mustang to achieve that.