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Don’t you hate it when you suddenly realize something about yourself that you were trying to avoid?

When you realize that, all of a sudden, you aren’t so perfect as you thought in that one area in life?

I got a bit of a wake-up call this weekend while hanging out with some amazing friends of mine, and getting to know two other awesome girls. I’ve been working on something for a really long time (which I’m not going to post on here) and I just realized this weekend how far I am from conquering it.

We all have something in our lives that we wish could just go away. Vanity, selfishness, lack of confidence, flirting, lust, gossiping, and tons more.

But no matter how hard we try, and no matter how long we succeed for, it always seems to come back, doesn’t it?

I was positive I had conquered this area in my life. But after hanging out with a bunch of different people I realized I hadn’t. I was ashamed of how I was acting around them at different points of time, because it’s not the way a daughter of God should be.

For a long time I’ve been justifying it by saying, “It’s not a sin. You didn’t do anything wrong, Becca, so snap out of it.”

But then I remember my verse… Revelation 3:16, which I quote all the time. “So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth.”

I really hate how the Christian life can’t be lukewarm. Wouldn’t that be a lot easier?

But it’s not. And you know why? Because when we live on fire for God, giving up those habits is worth it. But if we only give up half of ourselves, we’re never going to understand all that he has planned for us.

We are not perfect. You will never be perfect. So STOP TRYING. But we can be righteous. Righteousness is for the followers of God not only in heaven, but while we’re here on earth, too. Being righteous doesn’t mean that you never sin–we all sin. But it does mean that we have a heart yearning for God, and living for him every second of our lives.

God will help you conquer whatever you struggle with. You may go back into old ways once in a while, but with His help you will conquer it completely. And no matter how much I wish God could hurry up and help me, I know that His timing is better than mine, and that I really do need to learn patience anyway…



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You have no idea how stupid I can act around some people.

I’m extremely extroverted. When I’m in a big crowd of people I’m like a kid in a candy store.

Problem is, in my case, happiness and hyperness are directly related. As happiness increases, so does hyperness. Thus I can get extremely bouncy. I act like I’ve had at least 4 monster energy drinks. And that’s my “normal.”

You begin to see what I mean.

All my happiness just begins to bubble over, if that makes any sense. I just can’t keep it all in! I’m a really happy person, and I just really want everyone else to feel as happy as I do. Unfortunately, that usually involves me becoming extremely hyper.

I have laugh attacks. MAJOR laugh attacks. I can’t breathe, walk, talk, or anything. I just kinda flop onto the ground and start laughing. For a long time. I’m not kidding. I legitimately roll on the ground laughing. You can ask any of my friends.

And I get really clumsy, too. I managed to sit in a chair which then landed on my foot. I have a bruise on the top of my foot in the shape of a perfect circle which is from last weekend. I don’t know how I managed to do that. I think I might have been leaning back in the chair and then came forward all of a sudden, thus landing on my foot? I actually have no idea.

But no matter how stupid I act, I just love being in a crowd. I love people. I love talking to people, getting to know them. (Of course, these serious conversations are between my bursts of energy.) I honestly don’t understand why I act so crazy all the time, but you know what? I don’t really care anymore. I like being me! Being me is fun. I get to act completely stupid and people still love me. What more could you ask for?

What makes me laugh is that I think a lot of my subscribers think I’m a calm, peaceful, thoughtful kind of person. If only you knew me…

Even better yet, I have friends in grade 6 and 7 who actually think I’m cool. They are absolutely adorable! Oh if they only knew how incredibly un-cool I am.

I really wonder why people even put up with me. I guess I make them laugh. I really hate acting so stupid in crowds, but hey–it’s how God made me. And he made me for a reason, laugh attacks and all.

And if I can make someone’s day by making a fool of myself in front of my friends, I’d do it in a heartbeat.

What’s something ridiculous about you?


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I don’t think people understand that how a guy treats a girl can completely change her opinion of herself.

So many guys treat girls like trash. And I’m talking about Christian guys. Guys that go to church every Sunday, and then go to youth group in the middle of the week.

As soon as guys start treating girls like trash, they begin to think of themselves as trash.

Of course, a lot of girls just don’t let the words sink in, but it’s so hard not to.

I challenge girls a LOT on this blog, but I’ve been getting quite a few male readers lately, so I’m going to challenge you this time:

Even if a girl is wearing the most inappropriate clothes they can, even if they’re majorly flirting with you, even if they’re making inappropriate comments towards you, do not start flirting with them, do not start making inappropriate jokes around them. Honestly, is that the kind of guy you want to be known as?

Take it from a girl, I would MUCH rather have a guyfriend who can have a conversation with me without flirting once than one who flirts a ton. Flirting can make a girl feel good about herself for the time being, but as soon as you leave, suddenly she realizes that you didn’t mean any of it. And that can really hurt girls. I know from experience.

Girls are to be respected. I know that we don’t always make it easy, but the fact remains.

I don’t mean that they should be held on a pedestal like they’re some fragile glass object, but treat them like they’re people with feelings, and who God has commanded you, as guys, to look after. Treat them like you would your sister.

My entire opinion on myself changed as soon as I met really good Christian guy-friends. Honestly, it’s actually pretty crazy :) You look at my self-esteem (I hate that word, but that’s a different post) before and after I made a lot of my good guy-friends and it’s just sky-rocketed. I think it’s because all of a sudden I realized that there are guys who will treat me like I deserve to be treated, and that I’m not just some other girl to flirt with, but a person with opinions, and something to add to this world.

I honestly don’t think guys realize that flirting doesn’t make a girl feel beautiful–it makes her feel used.

To make a girl feel beautiful just be her friend. Treat her like she’s valuable. Respect her opinions.

I’d love to see more truly Christ-like guys in this world. You guys were born to be leaders, but so many of you are throwing that opportunity away! It’s so frustrating to watch–it really is.

So step up to the plate! Stop making inappropriate jokes. Stop flirting left, right and center.

Trust me, you could change someone’s life :)

Some questions for you..

Guys: Do girls do the same thing to you? If so, how can we fix it? I’d love to hear your opinions!

Girls: Do you agree? Disagree? I’d love to hear your opinions :)


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Hello girls,
So I was just reading Amber’s blog and she posted this verse:
“If you who are a Jew live like a Gentile and not like a Jew, how can you compel Gentiles to live like Jews?” Galations 2:14
She then went on to say that it’s the same with Christians–if we’re Christian, but we’re living a lifestyle that is anything but holy, how are we going to show people what it means to be a follower of Jesus Christ?
This verse is extremely important, in my opinion. So many Christians believe that they need to become one with our culture to be able to accept new teens into youth groups, young families into churches, etc. We lower our standards for our churches, youth groups, and for ourselves to an extent that there is no difference between us and the culture surrounding us, except that we claim one more lie: we’re Christians inside and out.
If you are a Christian, your number one priority should not be what others think of you. Your number one priority should not be to have the cutest boyfriend. If you go to a Chrsitian youth group, it should be reverent to God and to the church. I don’t mean that you always have to wear a long, white dress to represent purity and give up makeup and cute clothes to constantly chant prayers from the 16th century. But I do mean that if you’re fitting in extremely well with the culture, you need to step back a little.
What is the point of Christianity if we’re the same as everyone else? What is the point of believing in God if he isn’t able to completely switch your life around? If you say you believe in God, make sure you’re ready to follow through with that statement. God says it himself that he will spit the lukewarm out of his mouth–he would rather you be against him than only somewhat-for him! Do we get that?
I have friends who aren’t Christians, and it breaks my heart. It really does–I pray so hard that they will begin to understand my faith. But they won’t if I act the same as they do. Do you get it? If we’re not different, there’s no point to change. When people become Chrsitians, they’re saying goodbye to their old life.
But if Christians give the impression that you can live the sinful life and be a Christian, what’s the point of faith?
And what about you? Are you letting God radically change your life so that you can 100% live your life for him? God won’t work against our will. But do you really want to let him?
God can do so much for us, but only if we let him change us. And when he changes us, our lives become utterly and completely different–but you experience a peace that you will never know otherwise. People will see a difference in you, and they will want it. They’ll see joy, peace, contentment, and a purer love than they can ever imagine.
It’s time to start living the Christian faith, girls–and I know that it’ll be worth it in the end.

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Friends are amazing, aren’t they?

I just got back from a Bible Quizzing meet, where a whole bunch of teens (around 140 in our district) get together and quiz on a certain book of the Bible. We did John 1-5 this meet. We’ll be learning the rest of the book by the end of the year. (to understand what I mean, visit this website: http://ecd.bq.net)

I love the quiz meets, and not only because of the competition. Yes, that’s fun, but really, I go for the people. :) I’ve made friends with as many people as I possibly can during these meets. Usually I hang out with some of the younger guys from one of the churches from my district, because they are quite possibly the most awesome kids ever, but I ventured out of my comfort zone this quiz meet.

Usually I don’t make friends very well with girls. To be honest, I find it 10x easier to make friends with guys than I do girls. It’s just how I’m made. But this quiz meet, I am SO glad I went out of my comfort zone. I hung out with Talitha, Darian, Katie, Samantha, the other Samantha, Liz, the other Liz, the other the other Liz, Myriam, Kiersten, the other Kiersten, (there are a lot of repeated names) and a TON more girls. And you know what? I adore every single one of them. :)

They are some of the nicest girls I’ve ever met, and I know I’ll be hanging out with them next meet, too. :) I never expected I’d be friends with so many of the girls in our district, to be honest, but I am SO glad I got to really get to know them this meet. They are all encouraging, friendly, funny, sweet, and really strong Christians.

So if any of you are reading this, you are all deeply loved, and I can’t wait to see you in two months! I miss you all already!

What I’m trying to say, though, is go outside your comfort zone. Talk to people you normally wouldn’t talk to, and get to know the personality that God loves in that person. And don’t worry about venturing out of your age category! Some of my best friends from the quiz meets are a bunch younger than me, and I think they’re awesome. :)

God has created so many unique people out there, and I personally think that this world would be a much better place if we would all step out of our little bubbles and befriend someone we usually wouldn’t.

I love you all,


I’m sorry I haven’t been writing very often… I’ve been insanely busy! But I just wrote a bunch of posts, so we’ll be back on track soon! :)

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Thanks, God, for giving me such great friends.

Thanks for showing me that you are here for me, even though it feels sometimes that my prayers bounce back off the ceiling.

Thanks for showing me that you love me just the way I am, and for giving me a glimpse of myself the way you see me.

Thanks for letting me be a part of such a change in my friend’s life… it’s been amazing to watch.

Thanks for all the girls you told to send me encouraging e-mails about my blog just when I needed them.

Thanks for how the little grade-6-girl I know looks up to me so much… it really is a huge encouragement.

Thanks for how beautiful the frost was today. Even though it was cold. Can you make frost a bit warmer next time?

Thanks for my cousins—I really love them a ton.

Thanks for showing me what great friends I have, and for giving me some new ones this year. It’s really been amazing.

Thanks for when that little girl came up to me this morning and told me that she wants to look like me when she grows up, because she thinks I’m pretty. :)

Thanks for the little things in life, God. They’re sometimes what mean the most.


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Who’s your ideal friend? (I’m talking people here, although God can (and should) be our best friend, I’m thinking people.)

My ideal friend (guy or girl) would be someone who is (a) intellectual (b) Christian (c) happy or content with his/her life, even when things don’t go their way (d) funny (e) excited enough about God that I begin to want to grow closer to Him just by being around my friend.

What would your list have on it that I don’t have? Patient? Loud? Quiet? What’s the most important thing that you want your friend to be?

For me, my last point is the most important. I want someone who I can talk with about God, what he’s doing in my life, and what he’s going to do. Someone who will challenge me, and correct me when I’m wrong. Someone who believes that prayer works. Someone who’s entire life is centered with Christ. Someone will pray for me when I’m going through a really  hard time without me even asking them to.

It may seem like the generic Christian answer, but something I’ve realized these last few months is that I really do need someone to challenge me. I’m the good little Christian girl—never done anything extremely wrong by the world’s standards. I’ve been to church all my life, and am in a comfortable place in life. But my problem is that I haven’t really let my friends challenge me. I recently started random topics with my friends and have been learning a lot about myself and my relationship with God. I don’t think they always appreciate it, but I really do, so if you’re reading this, and we just had an intense debate, then thank you for putting up with stubborn little me. :)

But what kind of friend am I right now? I know that I’m not the kind of friend to people that I want. I can be self-centered, impatient, stubborn, lazy, short-tempered, vain, proud, and clingy. There. I just opened up completely to you. I hope you appreciate it. :P I don’t want to stay this way, though, and I’m slowly beginning to change. 

That friend who challenges me, corrects me, prays for me, and gets me excited about God—I want to be that friend. I want people to be able to describe me as Christ-centered, and on fire for God. I want to draw people closer to Him simply by having a normal conversation with them. That’s the kind of friend I want to be.

What kind of friend do you want to be? What kind of friend are you now?


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