Posts Tagged ‘girls’

I don’t think people understand that how a guy treats a girl can completely change her opinion of herself.

So many guys treat girls like trash. And I’m talking about Christian guys. Guys that go to church every Sunday, and then go to youth group in the middle of the week.

As soon as guys start treating girls like trash, they begin to think of themselves as trash.

Of course, a lot of girls just don’t let the words sink in, but it’s so hard not to.

I challenge girls a LOT on this blog, but I’ve been getting quite a few male readers lately, so I’m going to challenge you this time:

Even if a girl is wearing the most inappropriate clothes they can, even if they’re majorly flirting with you, even if they’re making inappropriate comments towards you, do not start flirting with them, do not start making inappropriate jokes around them. Honestly, is that the kind of guy you want to be known as?

Take it from a girl, I would MUCH rather have a guyfriend who can have a conversation with me without flirting once than one who flirts a ton. Flirting can make a girl feel good about herself for the time being, but as soon as you leave, suddenly she realizes that you didn’t mean any of it. And that can really hurt girls. I know from experience.

Girls are to be respected. I know that we don’t always make it easy, but the fact remains.

I don’t mean that they should be held on a pedestal like they’re some fragile glass object, but treat them like they’re people with feelings, and who God has commanded you, as guys, to look after. Treat them like you would your sister.

My entire opinion on myself changed as soon as I met really good Christian guy-friends. Honestly, it’s actually pretty crazy :) You look at my self-esteem (I hate that word, but that’s a different post) before and after I made a lot of my good guy-friends and it’s just sky-rocketed. I think it’s because all of a sudden I realized that there are guys who will treat me like I deserve to be treated, and that I’m not just some other girl to flirt with, but a person with opinions, and something to add to this world.

I honestly don’t think guys realize that flirting doesn’t make a girl feel beautiful–it makes her feel used.

To make a girl feel beautiful just be her friend. Treat her like she’s valuable. Respect her opinions.

I’d love to see more truly Christ-like guys in this world. You guys were born to be leaders, but so many of you are throwing that opportunity away! It’s so frustrating to watch–it really is.

So step up to the plate! Stop making inappropriate jokes. Stop flirting left, right and center.

Trust me, you could change someone’s life :)

Some questions for you..

Guys: Do girls do the same thing to you? If so, how can we fix it? I’d love to hear your opinions!

Girls: Do you agree? Disagree? I’d love to hear your opinions :)


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Giving Up Dreams

We find it really easy to surrender some dreams to God. The dream of having the newest car, for one, is an easy one to give up. If you felt that God was asking you to use that money to build wells in third world countries, I’m sure that a lot of people would be ok with it after some thought, even if they had been saving up for a long time.

But what about your dream of getting married?

I know this is a huge one for a lot of girls—it definitely is for me, I’m not going to lie. (If any of my guyfriends are reading this, don’t worry. I won’t be husband-hunting for a while yet. ;) so no cause for alarm) Girls want so badly to be loved—don’t we? I know it isn’t just me. We all want to believe that there’s the perfect guy out for us, and that God is going to present him at just the right time. Not only that, but it’s going to be more romantic than we could ever imagine.

Every Christian girl has their list of the things they need in a husband. It varies from girl to girl, but we all have one. Don’t try to deny it.

But have you ever thought that God might call you to be single?

It’s a scary thought, isn’t it, to most of us? It actually completely scares me—I don’t think I could live alone my whole life. But the point remains—he could call you to be single. He could call me. There’s no way of knowing until the time comes for him to reveal that part of the plan to us.

Would you be willing to hand your dreams of marriage over to God, and allow him to use your life however he sees fit?

Something to think about.


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What I’ll Never Understand…

Hey everyone,

So today I’m going to be a little more on the light side, since I’ve been thinking recently how we humans are honestly interesting creatures. I’ll never understand some things about either gender.

I’ve narrowed it down to 5 things for each gender. Of course, this being me, it’s still going to be a long post. ;)

What I don’t understand about girls

  1. I’ve never understood why girls put picture on facebook and ask for edits of it. Do you honestly want other girls to be looking so closely at everything about you to make it look perfect? Also, why would you put something on facebook which would be incredibly creepy for a guy to do that wouldn’t be weird at all for a girl to do? I mean, if a guy gave you a photo which he had edited for you, you’d kindly tell him to back off. But if a girl edits a photo for her friend, the conversation goes like this:
    Picture girl: Awww! That’s soooooo x 1million sweet of you!!! I love you soooo much!
    Editing girl: It was no problem!!! You’re SOOOOOOOOOx 1billion pretty! I wish I had your nose!
    Picture girl: You kidding? I wish I had your eyebrows!
    Editing girl: Aww thanks, but really. It was fun editing the photo!!!!! I’ll do another soon!!!

    Now if a guy edited the same picture for the girl, it would go more like this:
    Guy: Uh, I edited this picture of you. Hope you like it.
    Girl: Bug off, creep.

    See what I mean???

  2. Fights over who’s prettier than whom. I mean, I hate it when people reply to comments of “You’re so pretty!” With “Yeah right, but thanks!” or “Not as pretty as you!”
    It’s asking for attention. And it’s annoying. Cut it out. NOW. There`s a really easy reply:
    “Thanks! Right back at ya!”
    Was that so hard?
  3. (boy this is getting long) PERFECT  NAILS.
    I hate it when girls have perfect nails and hands. I’m so jealous.
  4. Vegetarians. I put this under girls because I have yet to meet a male vegetarian.
    How could you live without meat? Honestly? I couldn’t…
  5. Wedding planning.
    Honestly, when someone’s 13, they don’t need to know what colour the pew bows will be. Enough said.

What I don’t understand about guys

  1. Video games.
    I have yet to find a girl who plays them to the same extent that guys do on average. I have never ever understood how someone can play the same game for about a week straight.
  2. Their stupid stunts.
    Why would you jump off a bridge into a river? Why would you try to bike into a pond? Why would you try to run downtown pushing someone in a shopping cart as fast as you can?
    These are all true stories told to me by friends.
  3. Low pants.
    Ok, baggy pants are fine. Even if their hanging a bit low if I don’t see anything I’m ok. But when the crotch is down past the knees so it actually looks like they’re wearing a tight denim skirt over their pants?
    I don’t get it. It doesn’t even look good…
  4. How freakishly skinny they stay for the most part.
    I’ve seen a guy eat a full pizza and a bag of chips and down at least 5 pops in a day (like, the BIG ones) and not even give a thought to his weight. You know why? He’s stick skinny. STILL. And that amount of grease intake wasn’t abnormal, either.
    I don’t get it. (Of course, there are girls like this too, but guys tend not to build up muscle as well as girls do.)
  5. How guys are extremely clueless about some things but can pull random things out of a hat.
    No joke. I reminded one of my guyfriends about something SUPER important that had been planned for months and he completely forgot about it.
    A week later I got my hair cut and the same friend said “Wasn’t the last time you got your hair cut mid April?”

I was so confused how he could remember that and not this huge event our youth group had planned… anyone have the answer?

So yeah. Those are the five things I don’t understand about each gender! What are yours?


Btw, how do you like the new background? I think I’ve found the right one…

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