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Don’t you hate it when you suddenly realize something about yourself that you were trying to avoid?

When you realize that, all of a sudden, you aren’t so perfect as you thought in that one area in life?

I got a bit of a wake-up call this weekend while hanging out with some amazing friends of mine, and getting to know two other awesome girls. I’ve been working on something for a really long time (which I’m not going to post on here) and I just realized this weekend how far I am from conquering it.

We all have something in our lives that we wish could just go away. Vanity, selfishness, lack of confidence, flirting, lust, gossiping, and tons more.

But no matter how hard we try, and no matter how long we succeed for, it always seems to come back, doesn’t it?

I was positive I had conquered this area in my life. But after hanging out with a bunch of different people I realized I hadn’t. I was ashamed of how I was acting around them at different points of time, because it’s not the way a daughter of God should be.

For a long time I’ve been justifying it by saying, “It’s not a sin. You didn’t do anything wrong, Becca, so snap out of it.”

But then I remember my verse… Revelation 3:16, which I quote all the time. “So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth.”

I really hate how the Christian life can’t be lukewarm. Wouldn’t that be a lot easier?

But it’s not. And you know why? Because when we live on fire for God, giving up those habits is worth it. But if we only give up half of ourselves, we’re never going to understand all that he has planned for us.

We are not perfect. You will never be perfect. So STOP TRYING. But we can be righteous. Righteousness is for the followers of God not only in heaven, but while we’re here on earth, too. Being righteous doesn’t mean that you never sin–we all sin. But it does mean that we have a heart yearning for God, and living for him every second of our lives.

God will help you conquer whatever you struggle with. You may go back into old ways once in a while, but with His help you will conquer it completely. And no matter how much I wish God could hurry up and help me, I know that His timing is better than mine, and that I really do need to learn patience anyway…



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What’s more dangerous? A shark, or a vending machine?

I’d say a shark. And I’m assuming you would, too. Would you rather be in the middle of the ocean with a Great White shark, or in a cafeteria with a pop machine? Not much competition.

However, there are, on average, more deaths per year by vending machines falling on people than by shark attacks.

No one runs away from a vending machine, though. But if you saw a shark when you were snorkeling or something you’d try to get out of there. Even though you’re twice as likely to be killed by a vending machine than a shark.

Now here’s where I’m going to connect this to our Christian walk:

Too often we’re so scared of the “sharks” that we don’t even think about the “vending machines” in our lives.

As Christians, we focus so much on what are the “worst” sins, or the “most deadly” of sins. But we completely brush aside the littler, less dangerous sins.

We steer clear of things like drugs, drinking, homosexuality, fooling around with your boyfriend/girlfriend, porn addictions, etc.

But we forget about the smaller things, like lying, gossip, swearing, laziness (yes, it’s a sin), self-righteousness, selfishness, pride, vanity, and bitterness.

I’m not saying that the bigger sins aren’t to be pushed aside–even though I know that a shark is likely not going to attack me, I’m still going to get away from it as fast as I possibly can if I see one. It’s the same with sin.

But you know what? Sometimes the little things can be the most deadly.

That was the Pharisees’ problem. They were perfect when it came to the “big” sins, but they were as far from perfect as could be when it came to the smaller sins.

Be careful that you don’t underestimate the power of vending machines. They’re pretty heavy.

What do you think?


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I don’t think people understand that how a guy treats a girl can completely change her opinion of herself.

So many guys treat girls like trash. And I’m talking about Christian guys. Guys that go to church every Sunday, and then go to youth group in the middle of the week.

As soon as guys start treating girls like trash, they begin to think of themselves as trash.

Of course, a lot of girls just don’t let the words sink in, but it’s so hard not to.

I challenge girls a LOT on this blog, but I’ve been getting quite a few male readers lately, so I’m going to challenge you this time:

Even if a girl is wearing the most inappropriate clothes they can, even if they’re majorly flirting with you, even if they’re making inappropriate comments towards you, do not start flirting with them, do not start making inappropriate jokes around them. Honestly, is that the kind of guy you want to be known as?

Take it from a girl, I would MUCH rather have a guyfriend who can have a conversation with me without flirting once than one who flirts a ton. Flirting can make a girl feel good about herself for the time being, but as soon as you leave, suddenly she realizes that you didn’t mean any of it. And that can really hurt girls. I know from experience.

Girls are to be respected. I know that we don’t always make it easy, but the fact remains.

I don’t mean that they should be held on a pedestal like they’re some fragile glass object, but treat them like they’re people with feelings, and who God has commanded you, as guys, to look after. Treat them like you would your sister.

My entire opinion on myself changed as soon as I met really good Christian guy-friends. Honestly, it’s actually pretty crazy :) You look at my self-esteem (I hate that word, but that’s a different post) before and after I made a lot of my good guy-friends and it’s just sky-rocketed. I think it’s because all of a sudden I realized that there are guys who will treat me like I deserve to be treated, and that I’m not just some other girl to flirt with, but a person with opinions, and something to add to this world.

I honestly don’t think guys realize that flirting doesn’t make a girl feel beautiful–it makes her feel used.

To make a girl feel beautiful just be her friend. Treat her like she’s valuable. Respect her opinions.

I’d love to see more truly Christ-like guys in this world. You guys were born to be leaders, but so many of you are throwing that opportunity away! It’s so frustrating to watch–it really is.

So step up to the plate! Stop making inappropriate jokes. Stop flirting left, right and center.

Trust me, you could change someone’s life :)

Some questions for you..

Guys: Do girls do the same thing to you? If so, how can we fix it? I’d love to hear your opinions!

Girls: Do you agree? Disagree? I’d love to hear your opinions :)


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Hello girls,
So I was just reading Amber’s blog and she posted this verse:
“If you who are a Jew live like a Gentile and not like a Jew, how can you compel Gentiles to live like Jews?” Galations 2:14
She then went on to say that it’s the same with Christians–if we’re Christian, but we’re living a lifestyle that is anything but holy, how are we going to show people what it means to be a follower of Jesus Christ?
This verse is extremely important, in my opinion. So many Christians believe that they need to become one with our culture to be able to accept new teens into youth groups, young families into churches, etc. We lower our standards for our churches, youth groups, and for ourselves to an extent that there is no difference between us and the culture surrounding us, except that we claim one more lie: we’re Christians inside and out.
If you are a Christian, your number one priority should not be what others think of you. Your number one priority should not be to have the cutest boyfriend. If you go to a Chrsitian youth group, it should be reverent to God and to the church. I don’t mean that you always have to wear a long, white dress to represent purity and give up makeup and cute clothes to constantly chant prayers from the 16th century. But I do mean that if you’re fitting in extremely well with the culture, you need to step back a little.
What is the point of Christianity if we’re the same as everyone else? What is the point of believing in God if he isn’t able to completely switch your life around? If you say you believe in God, make sure you’re ready to follow through with that statement. God says it himself that he will spit the lukewarm out of his mouth–he would rather you be against him than only somewhat-for him! Do we get that?
I have friends who aren’t Christians, and it breaks my heart. It really does–I pray so hard that they will begin to understand my faith. But they won’t if I act the same as they do. Do you get it? If we’re not different, there’s no point to change. When people become Chrsitians, they’re saying goodbye to their old life.
But if Christians give the impression that you can live the sinful life and be a Christian, what’s the point of faith?
And what about you? Are you letting God radically change your life so that you can 100% live your life for him? God won’t work against our will. But do you really want to let him?
God can do so much for us, but only if we let him change us. And when he changes us, our lives become utterly and completely different–but you experience a peace that you will never know otherwise. People will see a difference in you, and they will want it. They’ll see joy, peace, contentment, and a purer love than they can ever imagine.
It’s time to start living the Christian faith, girls–and I know that it’ll be worth it in the end.

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Books pt 2

Hey everyone,

So I’m absolutely amazed by how many hits my last post got my blog! I was so happy!

So I’m writing another post on the subject. :)

I feel like I didn’t really explain what I meant about the romance novels. I bashed them a bit too much, I’m afraid. I do enjoy them when I’m on vacation and just want some brain-candy reads, and times like that.

But they bother me. A lot.

Girls are told everywhere–ads, friends, movies, music–that the most important thing in life is getting a guy and keeping him. Whatever it takes to keep him, do it. Our identities are tied with who we’re going out with or have gone out with in the past, according to the world.

Unfortunately, it’s a mindset most girls take on without even realizing it. And I think that the same message is given in many Christian romance novels.

Girls, the point of life is not to get married. The point of life is not to find that special guy. The point of life is to live in such a way that a part of heaven shines through you. Anything else is shallow, temporary and unfulfilling. Even if what you’re aiming for is a godly marriage. You need to understand that. Love is amazing, and you have no idea how much I want to meet my future husband. But if love is our first priority, and not God, life has no meaning.

I’m afraid that more and more girls are being fed the lie that life is about marriage, and God is being shoved back a little. Even in Christian romance novels.

Now, like I said, I have nothing against said novels, and I read them, too. I just don’t really enjoy them, and so I only read them when I need a no-brainer book. :) Hey, we all need some brain-candy sometimes. But I just don’t completely agree with the worldview they give. It is possible to have romance in a story without it being the main plotline, and those are the books I love. :)

Now, a couple of you have asked what books I recommend, and so I’m going to give a very short list:

  1. anything by Agatha Christie, especially “and then there were none”
  2. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee–makes me cry every time.
  3. Anything by George Orwell–but make sure to have a study guide kind of thing so that you understand everything he’s talking about. He’s just great. But ask your mom or dad before reading 1984, even though it’s a classic.

Right now I’m actually reading The Cantebury Tales by Geoffrey Chaucer, written in the end of the 14th century. In the original old English. And yes, I know I’m insane. :P It’s on my iPod, so I can read it while working out. :) Double win! (yeah, it’s free on iBooks if you’re interested)

So what do you think? What are some of your favourite books? If you like Christian romance novels, which are your favourites? I’ll let my sister know, and she’d probably love to have some suggestions!


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What I’ll Never Understand…

Hey everyone,

So today I’m going to be a little more on the light side, since I’ve been thinking recently how we humans are honestly interesting creatures. I’ll never understand some things about either gender.

I’ve narrowed it down to 5 things for each gender. Of course, this being me, it’s still going to be a long post. ;)

What I don’t understand about girls

  1. I’ve never understood why girls put picture on facebook and ask for edits of it. Do you honestly want other girls to be looking so closely at everything about you to make it look perfect? Also, why would you put something on facebook which would be incredibly creepy for a guy to do that wouldn’t be weird at all for a girl to do? I mean, if a guy gave you a photo which he had edited for you, you’d kindly tell him to back off. But if a girl edits a photo for her friend, the conversation goes like this:
    Picture girl: Awww! That’s soooooo x 1million sweet of you!!! I love you soooo much!
    Editing girl: It was no problem!!! You’re SOOOOOOOOOx 1billion pretty! I wish I had your nose!
    Picture girl: You kidding? I wish I had your eyebrows!
    Editing girl: Aww thanks, but really. It was fun editing the photo!!!!! I’ll do another soon!!!

    Now if a guy edited the same picture for the girl, it would go more like this:
    Guy: Uh, I edited this picture of you. Hope you like it.
    Girl: Bug off, creep.

    See what I mean???

  2. Fights over who’s prettier than whom. I mean, I hate it when people reply to comments of “You’re so pretty!” With “Yeah right, but thanks!” or “Not as pretty as you!”
    It’s asking for attention. And it’s annoying. Cut it out. NOW. There`s a really easy reply:
    “Thanks! Right back at ya!”
    Was that so hard?
  3. (boy this is getting long) PERFECT  NAILS.
    I hate it when girls have perfect nails and hands. I’m so jealous.
  4. Vegetarians. I put this under girls because I have yet to meet a male vegetarian.
    How could you live without meat? Honestly? I couldn’t…
  5. Wedding planning.
    Honestly, when someone’s 13, they don’t need to know what colour the pew bows will be. Enough said.

What I don’t understand about guys

  1. Video games.
    I have yet to find a girl who plays them to the same extent that guys do on average. I have never ever understood how someone can play the same game for about a week straight.
  2. Their stupid stunts.
    Why would you jump off a bridge into a river? Why would you try to bike into a pond? Why would you try to run downtown pushing someone in a shopping cart as fast as you can?
    These are all true stories told to me by friends.
  3. Low pants.
    Ok, baggy pants are fine. Even if their hanging a bit low if I don’t see anything I’m ok. But when the crotch is down past the knees so it actually looks like they’re wearing a tight denim skirt over their pants?
    I don’t get it. It doesn’t even look good…
  4. How freakishly skinny they stay for the most part.
    I’ve seen a guy eat a full pizza and a bag of chips and down at least 5 pops in a day (like, the BIG ones) and not even give a thought to his weight. You know why? He’s stick skinny. STILL. And that amount of grease intake wasn’t abnormal, either.
    I don’t get it. (Of course, there are girls like this too, but guys tend not to build up muscle as well as girls do.)
  5. How guys are extremely clueless about some things but can pull random things out of a hat.
    No joke. I reminded one of my guyfriends about something SUPER important that had been planned for months and he completely forgot about it.
    A week later I got my hair cut and the same friend said “Wasn’t the last time you got your hair cut mid April?”

I was so confused how he could remember that and not this huge event our youth group had planned… anyone have the answer?

So yeah. Those are the five things I don’t understand about each gender! What are yours?


Btw, how do you like the new background? I think I’ve found the right one…

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So I’m going through a major U2 phase right now, and I’ve been listening to them all the time. One song I really like called “A Man and a Woman” has a really interesting line in it.

“I could never take a chance of losing love to find romance.”

I love how much U2 distinguishes between the two. People tend to forget that romance and love are two different things. When teenagers think of love, they’re really thinking of romance most of the time.

Let me explain.

When a girl thinks about love, half the time she thinks about walking through fields of daisies hand-in-hand with her beloved prince charming. Then, out of nowhere, spontaneous waltzing with said prince, and then spending the rest of the day just you and him, safe and madly in love with each other. This is romance, not love.

Romance comes with love. Love doesn’t always come with romance.

Love is hard work. Love is being patient when the other person is really ticking you off. Love is making hard decisions together without blowing up. Or, if you do blow up at him, you make it up and admit you were wrong. Love is being able to spend every day with each other–through the good and the bad–putting not the other person first, but God.

Love is tough.

I dont’ say this to make everyone all depressed or anything–I say it to warn people. Now listen to me: teenage Christian girls often swear that they will never date anyone if they can’t picture marrying them. Now, when you get asked out by a guy who you think you could marry, are you picturing a marriage or romance, or a marriage of love? You can picture a marriage of romance with anyone. But a marriage of love is much harder to picture with some people.

We so often are led astray by the lie that romance and love are the same thing. They are so different! Romance is a natural outcome of love–but love is the hard part.

When I picture love, I picture my mom and dad. I think about how Daddy is (usually) extremely patient with mommy when she’s in a bad mood. I think about how Mommy works extra hard to make a nice meal for daddy when he comes home from a hard day at work. This may sound weird, but I picture them fighting, too. Because it’s inevitable, but they always make up after it. I picture how daddy looks at my mom when he thinks I’m not looking.

Not all of us have parents like mine–I mean, mine run marriage conferences. But all I’m trying to say is that when you are thinking about the kind of guy you want to marry or date, I want to warn you not to base your relationship on romance. Base it on love–on 1 Corinthians 13. Go read it if you don’t know what I’m talking about.

So what about you? What do you think? Let me know in a comment or an e-mail.


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