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I don’t think people understand that how a guy treats a girl can completely change her opinion of herself.

So many guys treat girls like trash. And I’m talking about Christian guys. Guys that go to church every Sunday, and then go to youth group in the middle of the week.

As soon as guys start treating girls like trash, they begin to think of themselves as trash.

Of course, a lot of girls just don’t let the words sink in, but it’s so hard not to.

I challenge girls a LOT on this blog, but I’ve been getting quite a few male readers lately, so I’m going to challenge you this time:

Even if a girl is wearing the most inappropriate clothes they can, even if they’re majorly flirting with you, even if they’re making inappropriate comments towards you, do not start flirting with them, do not start making inappropriate jokes around them. Honestly, is that the kind of guy you want to be known as?

Take it from a girl, I would MUCH rather have a guyfriend who can have a conversation with me without flirting once than one who flirts a ton. Flirting can make a girl feel good about herself for the time being, but as soon as you leave, suddenly she realizes that you didn’t mean any of it. And that can really hurt girls. I know from experience.

Girls are to be respected. I know that we don’t always make it easy, but the fact remains.

I don’t mean that they should be held on a pedestal like they’re some fragile glass object, but treat them like they’re people with feelings, and who God has commanded you, as guys, to look after. Treat them like you would your sister.

My entire opinion on myself changed as soon as I met really good Christian guy-friends. Honestly, it’s actually pretty crazy :) You look at my self-esteem (I hate that word, but that’s a different post) before and after I made a lot of my good guy-friends and it’s just sky-rocketed. I think it’s because all of a sudden I realized that there are guys who will treat me like I deserve to be treated, and that I’m not just some other girl to flirt with, but a person with opinions, and something to add to this world.

I honestly don’t think guys realize that flirting doesn’t make a girl feel beautiful–it makes her feel used.

To make a girl feel beautiful just be her friend. Treat her like she’s valuable. Respect her opinions.

I’d love to see more truly Christ-like guys in this world. You guys were born to be leaders, but so many of you are throwing that opportunity away! It’s so frustrating to watch–it really is.

So step up to the plate! Stop making inappropriate jokes. Stop flirting left, right and center.

Trust me, you could change someone’s life :)

Some questions for you..

Guys: Do girls do the same thing to you? If so, how can we fix it? I’d love to hear your opinions!

Girls: Do you agree? Disagree? I’d love to hear your opinions :)


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Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, so now, not only in my presence, but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.

Do all things without grumbling or questioning, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine like lights in the world.

Philippians 2:12-15

I love this passage so much :)

There’s so much good stuff crammed into 4 verses, honestly, I could go on for days about this passage. But I’ll try to keep it under 600 words, like usual. :)

I’m going to first skip ahead to the second section:

Do all things without grumbling or questioning, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine like lights in the world.

You hear that? Do all things without grumbling or questioning. I get told to stop whining a lot, personally. I tend to be a bit of a drama-queen at times. :)

Sometimes it’s hard not to grumble. Sometimes God calls us to do hard stuff, whether it’s getting a certain job, making friends with some of the ‘weirder’ kids, or going on a missions trip. But we’re to do all things without grumbling or questioning… and that’s pretty tough.

But you know why? It’s so that we’ll shine like stars. :) We live in a crooked and twisted generation, as Paul says, and when we live the Christian life we just shine so brightly that everyone has a glimpse of God’s goodness, love and power. Isn’t that amazing? Isn’t that what everyone wants in their Christian walk?

But there’s a catch.

We go back to the first section:

Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, so now, not only in my presence, but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.

If we’re going to shine like stars we’d better have faith. And it can’t be your parents’ faith, your friends’ faith, etc. It has to be yours. (read my last post–it talks about this more in detail.)

God can’t use someone as much as he wants to unless they completely devote themselves to him. But it’s hard, isn’t it? It’s hard to give your comfort over to God. I’m definitely not above admitting that it’s one of the hardest things I’m going through right now.

And after that, he wants to use you to spread his word. Not the word of how amazing you are, not the word of how much he appreciates you… the word of his love and his salvation and his forgiveness.

It seems a bit unfair until you realize what else there is promised.

We’ll live a life content in God.

We’ll find happiness beyond what we can ask or imagine.

We’ll live for eternity in the most amazing paradise you will ever know.

We have a personal relationship with the one man who was strong enough, brave enough, loving enough to come down and die a brutal death on the cross.

And if we shine like lights in our crooked and twisted generation, we can open up this love to a thousand other people.


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Hey everyone!

So I found the verse I’ve been quoting for the last 6 months and had no idea where it was. Biblos.com is pretty amazing for finding verses, just saying. :P

But anyway, one of my life verses:

“So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth.” Revelation 3:16

Pretty weird life verse, eh? But it is so incredibly important.

God says right here that he would rather us be against him 100% than only 50% for him.

Let that sink in for a minute. That kid you know, the atheist, who refuses to believe that there’s a God–God is happier with them than he is with someone who goes to church on Sundays and then swears, lies, cheats, etc. on Fridays.

No matter how good you are at wearing the Christian mask, you need to come clean. If you’re only living 50% for God, you need to seriously reevaluate your life. God is disgusted when we call ourselves Christians and then live our lives glorifying sin. He’s not only unhappy, like we portray him–if we accidentally do something wrong, he’s not just going to sigh, be sad for a little bit, and then move on–he is furious when we refuse to take sides for or against him.

If you’re living your life only 50%, if you don’t take God very seriously, if you act differently at school than you do at church, you need to seriously think about where your life is headed. You may be fooling others, but you are definitely not fooling God. And that should scare you. That idea scares me.

But as soon as you decide to give your life 100% to God he will receive you with open arms. He will erase your past, and give you a clean start.You will experience love like no other, but you have to hand over your life first.

God hates lukewarm. The last thing he wants is for you to live your life without knowing his complete devotion and love, but he has given you the freedom of that decision. Are you going to take it? Or are you going to live your life in a way that disgusts your God, the one who is able to give your more love, more hope, and greater friendship than anyone on this earth?


So, because you are lukewarm–neither hot nor cold–I am about to spit you out of my mouth.aga

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Hey everyone,

First off, thanks SO much for all the subscriptions! I’ve gotten a bunch in the last week, which makes me SUPER happy :)

I’ve not been online because our family went on a cruise for the last week, which was a great time. :) It was much warmer than here in Ontario.

The world down in the Caribbean is just gorgeous–palm trees, huge flowers, clear blue oceans–it really takes your breath away. It’s one of the places where I really see God through his magnificent creation. You know what else I find cool? God didn’t just make the world, but it was made through him.. he was an active role in the creation of the world, not just an external power which kinda pointed, said some magic words, and then POOF! A planet was born! No, he was involved, creating it through himself, and adding hints and clues to his being all over our universe.

Everywhere you look there are signs of God. A baby bird flying for the first time. Water so clear that you can see down 40 feet. Dark brown trees contrasted with sparkling snow. (Only thing I like about the stuff.)

But the world still doesn’t know him. Or, after they’ve recognized who he is, they still don’t accept him.

I find that just astonishing… when people can look outside in the middle of a gorgeous spring day and still say that there is no God, I don’t understand it. When a person can look at a gorgeous coral reef and claim that there is no God, I can’t understand it. Doesn’t all of creation point to God? Someone must have been behind all of it, and that someone must be pretty amazing to think of everything we know.

He was in the world, and though the world was made through him, the world did not recognize him (John 1:10)

What about you? Do you recognize God? Would you be able to tell who Jesus was if he was here on Earth? He made you–every little thing. And so often we fail to recognize the very being who is the cause for our existence!

It is so incredibly selfish of us to live our lives without giving all glory, all honour, all praise to the one who is responsible for everything in your life. The one who loves you more than anyone ever can. Love you enough to die the most brutal death you could ever imagine–and then even more so, since he was also facing the greatest broken heart of all eternity.

We serve an amazing God. An absolutely indescribably amazing God. I’ve decided to spend a little bit more time getting to know him this year. I hope you’ll do the same. Maybe keep me accountable :)



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Books pt 2

Hey everyone,

So I’m absolutely amazed by how many hits my last post got my blog! I was so happy!

So I’m writing another post on the subject. :)

I feel like I didn’t really explain what I meant about the romance novels. I bashed them a bit too much, I’m afraid. I do enjoy them when I’m on vacation and just want some brain-candy reads, and times like that.

But they bother me. A lot.

Girls are told everywhere–ads, friends, movies, music–that the most important thing in life is getting a guy and keeping him. Whatever it takes to keep him, do it. Our identities are tied with who we’re going out with or have gone out with in the past, according to the world.

Unfortunately, it’s a mindset most girls take on without even realizing it. And I think that the same message is given in many Christian romance novels.

Girls, the point of life is not to get married. The point of life is not to find that special guy. The point of life is to live in such a way that a part of heaven shines through you. Anything else is shallow, temporary and unfulfilling. Even if what you’re aiming for is a godly marriage. You need to understand that. Love is amazing, and you have no idea how much I want to meet my future husband. But if love is our first priority, and not God, life has no meaning.

I’m afraid that more and more girls are being fed the lie that life is about marriage, and God is being shoved back a little. Even in Christian romance novels.

Now, like I said, I have nothing against said novels, and I read them, too. I just don’t really enjoy them, and so I only read them when I need a no-brainer book. :) Hey, we all need some brain-candy sometimes. But I just don’t completely agree with the worldview they give. It is possible to have romance in a story without it being the main plotline, and those are the books I love. :)

Now, a couple of you have asked what books I recommend, and so I’m going to give a very short list:

  1. anything by Agatha Christie, especially “and then there were none”
  2. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee–makes me cry every time.
  3. Anything by George Orwell–but make sure to have a study guide kind of thing so that you understand everything he’s talking about. He’s just great. But ask your mom or dad before reading 1984, even though it’s a classic.

Right now I’m actually reading The Cantebury Tales by Geoffrey Chaucer, written in the end of the 14th century. In the original old English. And yes, I know I’m insane. :P It’s on my iPod, so I can read it while working out. :) Double win! (yeah, it’s free on iBooks if you’re interested)

So what do you think? What are some of your favourite books? If you like Christian romance novels, which are your favourites? I’ll let my sister know, and she’d probably love to have some suggestions!



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So I’m going through a major U2 phase right now, and I’ve been listening to them all the time. One song I really like called “A Man and a Woman” has a really interesting line in it.

“I could never take a chance of losing love to find romance.”

I love how much U2 distinguishes between the two. People tend to forget that romance and love are two different things. When teenagers think of love, they’re really thinking of romance most of the time.

Let me explain.

When a girl thinks about love, half the time she thinks about walking through fields of daisies hand-in-hand with her beloved prince charming. Then, out of nowhere, spontaneous waltzing with said prince, and then spending the rest of the day just you and him, safe and madly in love with each other. This is romance, not love.

Romance comes with love. Love doesn’t always come with romance.

Love is hard work. Love is being patient when the other person is really ticking you off. Love is making hard decisions together without blowing up. Or, if you do blow up at him, you make it up and admit you were wrong. Love is being able to spend every day with each other–through the good and the bad–putting not the other person first, but God.

Love is tough.

I dont’ say this to make everyone all depressed or anything–I say it to warn people. Now listen to me: teenage Christian girls often swear that they will never date anyone if they can’t picture marrying them. Now, when you get asked out by a guy who you think you could marry, are you picturing a marriage or romance, or a marriage of love? You can picture a marriage of romance with anyone. But a marriage of love is much harder to picture with some people.

We so often are led astray by the lie that romance and love are the same thing. They are so different! Romance is a natural outcome of love–but love is the hard part.

When I picture love, I picture my mom and dad. I think about how Daddy is (usually) extremely patient with mommy when she’s in a bad mood. I think about how Mommy works extra hard to make a nice meal for daddy when he comes home from a hard day at work. This may sound weird, but I picture them fighting, too. Because it’s inevitable, but they always make up after it. I picture how daddy looks at my mom when he thinks I’m not looking.

Not all of us have parents like mine–I mean, mine run marriage conferences. But all I’m trying to say is that when you are thinking about the kind of guy you want to marry or date, I want to warn you not to base your relationship on romance. Base it on love–on 1 Corinthians 13. Go read it if you don’t know what I’m talking about.

So what about you? What do you think? Let me know in a comment or an e-mail.



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Abraham Lincoln once said that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” I completely agree.

I’m an extremely happy person. It can actually be pretty annoying at times, I admit. Last week I got told at a youth group I go to by one of the newer leaders that he didn’t know what I looked like when I wasn’t smiling or laughing.

I’ve had an easy life, though, too. I haven’t had to face sudden death of a friend, divorce, times where money is short, or any of that kind of stuff. So to many people it seems that it’s easy to be happy if you’re in my situation.

But the funny thing is that I don’t see a lot of my friends who come from extremely bad situations moping about their lives. I see people whose biggest problem is that their parents don’t let them go to parties with their sketchy boyfriend depressed about their lives.

I still don’t really understand why teenagers are so dramatic. Although I have to admit that I can be. Yes, I cry over stupid things. Yes, I have to control my whirlwind emotions at times. But I’ve always been able to control them. Unless they’re about grades. But I see people living their lives hating their parents (who are very nice people—most of them I absolutely love) and making up their minds to be as miserable as possible all the time.

And then I see some of my friends who have faced more than enough trouble for anyone, and they’re smiling and they’re praising God for what he’s done in their lives. They’re making friends, they’re talking about how much they appreciate their friends and family, and they focus on all the good in their lives.

I’m naturally bubbly, as I’ve mentioned, but I have had purpose for being sour towards life. My brother died when I was about 1 ½ years old when he was only 29 days old. I’ve had a close friend be diagnosed with AIDs. I’ve been told by people that I’m ugly (long time ago, almost over it don’t worry) and for a long time I believed them. I’ve seen a beautiful 6-year-old girl die of a brain tumour. But you know what? No matter how terrible these things are, God is sovereign. There is reason to be joyful, because we know that God has it under control.

I don’t mean that you have to always be smiling. I don’t mean that you have to always feel like laughing–and I definitely don’t mean that you need to forget the bad things in your life. How could I ever forget about Christopher (my brother) or the little girl I knew before she died? It’s impossible. But God calls us to be joyful–and we can be with his healing power. 

You have the ability to love your life or hate it. It’s up to you, and no one else can make that decision for you. But let me tell you—if your problem is with your parents, you’re likely in the wrong. They know what they’re doing—they’re older than you, they have experience, and they’re wiser. Yes, they can be annoying. Yes, they can make mistakes. Yes, they are embarrassing. But no, they do not hate you, and no, they are not trying to ruin your life. I’m not trying to belittle anyone’s suffering, anyone’s problems, anything. But the truth is, we as teenagers can blow situations out of proportion so easily.

“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” How happy are you deciding to be? Are you deciding to focus on the good, and on God? Or are you going to focus on the parts of your life that you hate?



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